Big Decisions Can Be Scary!

In everyone’s life ” a little rain must fall” and also a few big decisions. I’m not talking about the decision of changing the color of your living room or whether to get the cat fixed. I’m talking major, life-altering decisions such as where to go to college, what career to pursue or which guy to marry.

wedding dress with red sash

Most of these life-altering decisions you face early in life when your youthful attitude keeps you from completely freaking out. Still, you usually come up against some major decisions later in your lifetime. Maybe you’re faced with a divorce, health issue or job loss. These types of decisions can make you lose sleep and cuss out the mailman.

crazy woman

Change can be exciting but also terrifying. The same way that baked mac & cheese can be a comfort food to a lot of people, our lives chugging along in the usual pattern can be comforting. No surprises. No fears of the unknown. But it can also keep us in a rut, missing out on new adventures and experiences. A short change to our daily lives, such as a vacation, can be safely looked upon with anticipation and excitement because we know afterward we will go back to our comforting, daily routine.

airplane wing

It’s the kind of decision that will be long-term, life-altering that can turn us into insomniacs. We know by making this decision, our daily routine will change in one or more ways. My husband and I are currently facing one of these major decisions, the down-sizing loss of a job and the decision to relocate. Looking for a new job intimidates most of us; the resumes, the applications, the interviews, etc. Tack on relocating your family to another unfamiliar state and you’ve got yourself a plate full of stress.

moving van

So, how do you make a life-altering decision? Toss a coin? Compare the pros & cons? Pray on it? Consult a psychic? Everyone has their own tried-and-true method for making decisions. I, personally, pray about things and use the pros vs. cons method. I list the pros and cons of each option then go with the majority. I also try, notice I said try, to compartmentalize things so it doesn’t get overwhelming. Not familiar with that 32 cent word? Compartmentalize is not only fun to say, it helps you divide things into categories. To pigeonhole your tasks. I concentrate on one task while the others are locked up to wait their turn. The ‘try’ was because sometimes you can’t concentrate on just one task at a time. But when it is possible, it works for me.

key in lock

What are your methods for making decisions?

What are some major decisions you’ve had to deal with in your lifetime?

Your experience may help someone else going through something similar. Thank you for sharing.



9 thoughts on “Big Decisions Can Be Scary!

  1. The lion or the bear. Seems like a few of those decisions we have come to offer choices that are less than ideal. I try to use experience and past events to judge the outcome of decisions. The trick is to know when you are making a choice. Sometimes the fuzz of everyday life masks that decision point and you don’t realize you’ve done it until, well, you’ve done it. The young heal up and hair over quicker, bless their hearts. Age and wisdom have a price. Always wanted to ride the bull at the rodeo? Rock climb? How about quit your job and start your own business? Do it while your age begins with a 2 or a 3. In debt and out of work is tough when you are just out of college but sucks if there’s grey popping out along your hairline.


    • You said, Mike! When our age begins with a 4 or 5 we definitely don’t bounce back as quickly or as well from major changes. I have noticed that in myself lately:) Thanks for stopping by and commenting. Have a great day!

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  2. silverlining says:

    Thank you for sharing! I also pray about it and make a list of pros and cons. 🙂


  3. Saz says:

    Totally understand you!
    I also use the pro vs con & pray methods.
    I admit I get quite moody when faced with a big decision, I guess it is how my stress shows through.
    I also spend a lot more time worrying about what could go wrong, whereas just 3 years ago I would have just done it and seen every opportunity as “experience”.


    • Emotions can be a roller coaster at this time. I get stress headaches and bawl 🙂
      I like your thought of “seen every opportunity as experience.” I will try to keep that in mind.
      Thanks for stopping by Saz and have a great day!


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